Wednesday, December 31, 2008
2008: Year in Review
I don't want to be all negative and re-stress over things that have already caused me stress, so as I look back over the year I have to remember that each of the things that went "wrong" has already started going back "right" for us. Also, that in hindsight, some of this stuff is kind of funny. Kind of. Here's how 2008 will go down in the Goettsch family history.
The year of the hive. Bad news: the urticaria that started as hives in May grew worse and worse through the summer and eventually became angioedema (speaking of ways to make me look hot... lips and eyes all swollen up), which I battled almost once a week through the fall. The results of being itchy for six months, and gaining lots of weight due to steroid overexposure and edema, and being exhausted due to a constant stream of antihistamine in my blood have caused no shortage of stress in our lives. Good news: I finally stopped doing the same steroid taper over and over again as directed by the allergist, did what made sense to me, and I am now completely off the prednisone, with nary a hive in sight. Now to address that whole weight gain issue...
The year of marriage counseling. Bad news: Mark and I work really, really hard to make our marriage work. Good news: I have no shame in the fact that Mark and I work really, really hard to make our marriage work. Most good things in life require hard work. And in this case, the hard work is totally worth it. My husband rocks.
The year of FTT. Bad news: Nathan was diagnosed with failure to thrive in February and was hospitalized shortly thereafter due to rapid weight loss. Afterwards, we spent months calorie-counting to make sure he was taking in enough. It was all a bit asinine since you can't count calories or measure ounces of milk coming from a boob. And while Nathan was busy surviving (instead of developing normally), his body set himself up for a fairly significant gross motor delay. Good news: the ftt was fixable with more fat and protein, Nathan is back on the chart and growing well, and although he's still "behind" on motor skills, he has taken his first steps and is on a steady course of improvement. And the verbal/cognitive/social skills are right on track, if not a little ahead. Which brings me to...
The year of what's that. Bad news: Nathan thinks it's fun to ask what's that? approximately a million times a day, and is showing no signs of outgrowing the trend. It's exhausting, and mildly annoying (don't judge me, I still love him). Good news: He can talk, and I love to have conversations with him, and at least he's not asking why? yet.
The year of the pay cut. Bad news: I have taken a series of pay cuts at work (like everyone else in America), which means I can either do the same amount of work for less money, or do more work for the same amount of money. Neither of which is ideal. Good news: I still have a job. I like my job. They let me do it part-time, and they let me do it from home. Considering the economic climate in our country right now, this is actually one of the better parts of 2008. Which says something about 2008. When a pay cut is something to see the "glad" side of.... it's not been a super year.
I can mostly laugh about these things now, since we really did enjoy many parts of this past year, and in hindsight it's pretty easy to focus on the positive. Also, I have full confidence that 2009 will be healthier and more prosperous for our family, and for our country. Things might get worse before they get better, but they will get better. I hope that 2009 will be the year of reading good books, and the year of triathlons, and the year of laughing with my son, and the year of sex, and the year of camping, and the year of snuggling with my pups, and the year of no hives.
Yep, mostly that no hive thing.
Happy New Year!
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
I'm Noticing a Theme Here
Brad and Nikki say 'Merry Christmas' from St. Croix!
Once again it was strange without "baby" Brad around. Even stranger that he sent a stack of Christmas presents home with mom (who spent Christmas with him in St. Croix). And even stranger that they were wrapped. In actual wrapping paper. (I'm convinced mom secretly did it.) In past years he's been famous for "wrapping" Christmas presents in brown paper bags which might or might not have been stapled shut. (Remember how my dad is a bow nazi? Yeah I'm pretty sure the brown bag thing drove him nuts.) Or maybe he only did that once, and Ashley and I decided to make it Bumgarner family legend by retelling the story every year. Yep, that sounds more likely. Anyhow, enough about Brad, he wasn't even there (but thanks for the presents and we really did miss you!)....
Know what was there?
A harmonica. And a tambourine. And a triangle. And a handle castanet. And a kazoo.
Anyone else noticing a theme here?
If we add this to the drum Nathan got this weekend, the singing drum and rolling electric piano he got earlier in December, the spanish maracas he got for his birthday, the recorder in his Easter basket, and the tiger xylophone/piano Mark desperately wanted him to have when he first showed interest in musical toys (did I forget any?).... then we would have a full orchestra, I'm pretty sure. Can Nathan be a one-man band like Bert from Mary Poppins?
Now he just needs a trombone and some organ lessons to round out the holidays. (Grandparents, I am very much kidding.)
It's a good thing Nathan really, really likes musical toys. (He got it honest, after all.) He takes such pride in picking up an instrument and seeing what sounds he can make. Sometimes he can hardly play for giggling when he does it right. He truly is making a joyful noise every time he plays with these things (yes, even the drum is joyful). As a parent, it's amazing to see his face shining with so much pleasure as he figures out and then masters these little instruments. I guess these are all the same reasons Mark and I liked music as kids (and still do!)... It encourages creativity, and instills confidence. Plus, it's loud. (Trying to think like a toddler here.)
And don't worry, he did get stuff besides instruments. Like a great (silent!) puzzle from Ashley, and some monkey slippers for his monkey feet (I have monkey slippers too!) and some mandarin oranges with their own spoon (my mom has a fetish about providing snack foods complete with utensils... don't ask).
When we got home we split his current toys into three batches, which we can rotate out every few weeks so the stuff stays new and stimulating. One doesn't need to be the whole orchestra every time, after all. (Don't worry, there are shaking toys and blowing toys and banging toys in every batch; the band geek in me "orchestrated" that very carefully.)
Anyway we had a great time with mom and my grandpa, and my sister and her beau, John. And mom's trainer Michael was also there with his wife and sister-in-law... we claim ourselves as their American family, especially around the holidays. Nice to have Germans around, for me anyway. Makes me a little Germany-nostalgic, but in a good way.
And thus ends our holiday celebrations. I love my joyful, loud, chaotic family. :)
For more pictures of Christmas at my mom's, click here.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Oh What Fun it is to Ride (on a Tractor)
This year's visit was in some ways exactly like it has been for a decade. Kids (kids meaning the younger generation of grownups.... and now Nathan too) all sitting at one table in the den, three kinds of meat, fourteen kinds of dessert, canned cranberry sauce, two kinds of iced tea (sweet with sugar, and sweet with artificial sweetener... yeah welcome to NC), the re-telling of cousin Brandon's first candy cane (he still hasn't managed to get one into Nathan to pass the story on to the next generation), the Panthers game on TV, and lots of loud conversation (my grandpa is hard of hearing).
The "kids" table... full of adults!Also, Nathan got to take his first tractor ride!! If you remember, he's been a big fan of tractors ever since he got a toy one for his birthday in July. He talks about them constantly. When he hears a lawn mower or blower (or, let's be honest... a plane) he crawls straight to the window to proclaim Tractor! See it! Tractor! Tractor!! So his grandpa (my dad) taking him for his first ride was sort of monumental.
Here's a short video of his ride (don't judge the way my dad waves, my family just waves weird, something Mark has been making fun of me about for years):
Also funny is the post-ride interview. As I watch this I can't help but notice how truly southern this family is! (Barely-intelligible commentary on normal events, from colorful characters of course, is part of a standard southern news broadcast, if you've never seen one. We even have the token southern grandpa chuckling along.)
He seemed sort of overwhelmed by his tractor ride at the time, but he has not stopped talking about it since then (four days later; I'm finishing this post on 1/1). It has been big tractor this and big tractor that, taking few breaks to talk about other things (just to drum, mainly).
Oh, he's becoming more southern all the time.
For more pictures of our Christmas in Millers Creek, click on Nathan and his Great-Grandpa, below.
by mgoetts
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Santa Came! (Better Late than Never)
So Santa came... and he brought BLOCKS!!! So fun!
And he's pretty crafty, too, since he was able to spell Nathan's name with them before he left them under the tree. He must have the mind of an engineer. ;-)

Last year, Christmas morning was fun with Nathan, but this year was way better since Nathan is old enough (and mobile enough) to be excited about the holiday. Watching his little bum as he speed-crawled across the floor to the tree to see what he could see... well it was just precious. And he loved the blocks.
For more pictures of our family's Christmas morning at home, click on the stockings below.
by mgoetts
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
The 25 Questions of Christmas
2. Real tree or Artificial? Real. Duh.
3. When do you put up the tree? Usually right after Thanksgiving, avoiding Mark's work schedule and birthday (which, contrary to what he used to think, is not always on Thanksgiving).
4. When do you take the tree down? When Mark finally convinces me it's time. We try to last until Epiphany if it's not dying by that point.
5. Do you like eggnog? If you don't like eggnog, you are a scrooge. There, I said it. This question shouldn't be do you like it, but how you you like it best? Put some in my starbucks latte, please. :)
6. Favorite gift received as a child? Becky. My first baby. (Yes, even before Nathan. And Bowden.) She and her cousin Ginny has some rockin' awesome days with their rockin' awesome moms in the late 80s. Good times, good times.
7. Hardest person to buy for? my grandpas. seriously, what do they need? or want? no, really -- your help/ideas are appreciated.
8. Easiest person to buy for? mom
9. Do you have a nativity scene? Do I own one? No. But I claim the variety of options in my church's sanctuary windowsills as mine during the advent season. I don't want one in the house since toddler Nathan choking on a wise man would totally kill the Christmas spirit, am I right?
10. Mail or email Christmas cards? Mail, usually. I email some people. And I'll post it on this blog for people I don't know in 'real life' (cause don't you know if I don't know you in real life, you're sort of an imaginary person to me, like a tv character? ) who I still want to share good tidings of great joy with.
11. Worst Christmas gift you ever received? I can't think of anything worse than this right now: I found out this morning that my sister got an (unwrapped) cactus candle from her boyfriend's grandmother. Don't tell me that wasn't regifted. For today at least, nothing will beat the cactus candle.
12. Favorite Christmas Movie? I can't choose! Elf, Love Actually, and Rudolph are the ones I sort of need to watch every year to feel Christmasy.
13. When do you start shopping for Christmas? All year, but in earnest on Black Friday.
14. Have you ever recycled a Christmas present? Yes. Just last night I gave my sitter a bottle of her favorite wine, which Mark and I don't like at all. A gift that someone else will like is still a great gift, even if it's free or has been re-gifted. (Note to grandmas everywhere: no one likes cactus candles. Do not regift cactus candles.)
15. Favorite thing to eat at Christmas? whatever chocolate comes out of my stocking.
16. Lights on the tree? We have white this year, but when Nathan is old enough to choose, I'm gunning for colored!
17. Favorite Christmas song? Mary Did You Know, Feliz Navidad, and all the verses of Hark! The Herald Angels Sing (yes, I have to include the exclamation point). And So This is Christmas. And more. Man do I love Christmas music.
18.Travel at Christmas or stay home? At home for Christmas Eve and morning, but we'll visit with family this weekend.
19. Can you name all of Santa’s reindeer? Yes, can't you? (Scrooge.) Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, Vixen. Comet, Cupid, Donner, Blitzen. And Rudolph.
20. Angel on the tree top or a star? Star. It's beautiful. Made of (fake) wood branches, with lights.
21. Open the presents Christmas Eve or morning? We'll do one each on Christmas Eve, then the rest tomorrow.
22. Most annoying thing about this time of the year? Scrooges who complain about eggnog. Seriously, you're killing my Christmas high.
23. Favorite ornament theme or color? The non-theme. Who wants a tree that looks like it goes in a store? I love that all our ornaments mean something, and that we get to relive great memories while we go through them.
24. Favorite for Christmas dinner? Growing up, my family usually did a big breakfast, which was nice. This year we're having lobster ravioli. (Don't be impressed, it came frozen from BJ's.) The only must-have is sparkling grape juice. Goes with anything.
25. What do you want for Christmas this year? I know this sounds clichéed, but I just want my family to be healthy and happy. And no more hives. And my new stroller to be put together without any arguing. And the raincoat I ask for every year and never get. And a new toaster that won't beat up my poptarts. Oh! And peace on earth.
I tag anyone reading this, since that's the Christmas spirit! (Thanks to Jill for this idea.)
Monday, December 22, 2008
More Fun with Strollers
But I digress.
The shoes are rockin' awesome and he will be able to wear them outside. Remember my good fortune with Bobux? Yeah we're going that route again (third pair in his life). At their prices he will get exactly one pair, so I picked these that can pass as dress shoes or athletic shoes. And if we don't like this style as much as we've liked our other Bobux shoes, I have no shame in returning them in favor of some very acceptable second-choices I scouted out.The stroller... not so simple. Remember how I lost my umbrella stroller back in the fall? Well I need to replace it with something small, but with several conveniences that umbrella strollers don't have (like being tall enough for Daddy to push comfortably, having at least a little cargo space, and maybe even a cupholder for me). I did a bunch of research, found the one I wanted, did even more research, found who had it for cheapest, and then realized no one has them in stock. At all. They're all completely backordered. Until who knows when. Nothing like a bunch of research done in vain, right? Because I have time for that. [shakes head]

So we went all over town, doing more (yes! more!) lightweight stroller research. Wal-mart, Babies-R-Us (oh how I cringe to type that), Target, and eventually Burlington Coat Factory. After much back-and-forthing and indecision (I involved Mark), and after Nathan had crawled all over the nasty floors of all these stores (yeah he's totally sick now, by the way), we finally decided on one. And guess what? It's half the price of the one I originally wanted, and I think I like it better.
The whole process exhausted us so much that it's still in its box, in Mark's car, and we might or might not assemble it for Christmas. But in the end, mom's dollars combined with my bargain/value-hunting ended up with a pretty good solution. I hope.
Everyone say a prayer that I won't leave this one in a farmer's market parking lot.
Friday, December 19, 2008
I'm in Love with a PE
Some of the nerds I have crushed on through the years:
1.) Clark Kent, as I mentioned above. Probably my first nerd love. Don't make me pick my favorite actor who's played him... I love them all.
2.) Doogie Howser, MD. How could you not have loved Neil Patrick Harris in this role when you were a kid? Smarter than his parents, has his own money, and cute! Oh and he can sing, too. Mmmm NPH, why can't I quit you?
3.) Harry Potter. Dark, handsome, again with the glasses. I'm drunk with his power. And Daniel Radcliffe is just as hott as I pictured Harry in the books.

4.) The ultimate nerd... Henry Grubstick. I do not know what it is about this geek that makes my heart race, but something does. Maybe that he always does the right thing. Maybe that he's smart. Maybe that he loves an imperfect woman. Christopher Gorham is not geeky at all in real life, which is unfortunate... I find him infinitely hotter playing the role of nerdy Henry.
5.) And of course... my own Mark. I'm sure the rest of you just see a handsome successful man taking care of his family, but I want to let you in on a little secret: he has kind of a dorky past. (Not judging, I do too. And as we've established, it totally works for me.) Amazing brain, chess club, senior math award, band geek, multiple degrees in engineering... my man has all the geek potential but twice the hotness of all these others. He's really grown into his hotness over the years, don't you think?
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Now That's Tired
Mark said he thinks it was something about kicking one of them off in his sleep due to an itchy foot, but I don't buy it. Because that doesn't explain how there was also one (not homemade, but home-baked) cookie left uneaten on the table next to him. Who leaves one warm cookie, chocolate chips melting in the center, uneaten? It's just unnatural. Unless you're half-asleep that is, and tired enough to nod off in the middle of taking off your shoes.
Which is why I'm pretty sure he really was that tired.
Saturday, December 13, 2008
All I Want for Christmas is Lights on the House
But as much as he hates putting them up, that's how much I love having them. Times two. So I win. And the lights are now up!

No, I have not set our lights to Wizards in Winter like this guy from a few years back. (If you want to see an even better video of that song, revisit my Raleigh Ringers post from last year.) Because apparently All I Want for Christmas is You is the new Wizards in Winter, as evidenced by this video (and a thousand others like it on youtube).
Our lights are normal and still. And it makes our little house look pretty even without special effects, don't you think?
Friday, December 12, 2008
First Steps!
[Ed note: I just got the video today, 12/16, and he has not really done any walking since then. So maybe this will be the year of the step instead!]
Thursday, December 11, 2008
How to Text Like a Seventh Grader
Well, my sister changed my texting life a few weeks ago, and since it's her birthday today, I thought I would honor her by sharing this with all of you.
I will preface this by saying you probably all knew about this already, and I'm a terrible old fogey, and you will enjoy a good laugh at my out-of-touchness. Y'all, even my dad texts this way. Yes, my dad can text like a seventh grader. Which just makes me all the more grateful for Ashley being 13 months younger (and a whole generation closer to today's adolescents) than I am, so she can teach me these things.
So there's this thing called T9. It apparently means text on 9 keys. Basically, when you choose this option in your cell phone (I promise, your cell phone has it) instead of the normal ABC or abc or Abc that old fogeys use, you can type each number only once per letter (instead of scrolling through each number to find the right character) and your phone will recognize what you're trying to type. Apparently there are only so many logical words that can come out of typing each number combination. And if it gets it wrong (don't will always come out foot the first time, as Ashley proved), just hit zero ("next") until it suggests the word you want.
(Please don't ask me how to type zero in T9. I haven't figured that out yet. If you know, leave me a comment and I will be forever grateful.)
It's a little annoying at first, but it's so much faster once you get used to it. I feel like I can officially welcome myself to the year 2005 now that I have figured this out. Since Mark just got us a bigger text plan for our phones (250/month, not unlimited like I originally thought... oops), I plan to make much use of my T9 option.
Happy Birthday Ashley!! Your bloggity present is this fabulous bag (electronic, of course, since that's how our family does it) of extra crispy (remember?) tater tots. Enjoy!
Monday, December 8, 2008
N&B's Crab Au Gratin
Nick and Barbara's Crab Au Gratin
1 stalk celery chopped fine
1 cup onion chopped fine
1 stick butter
2-3 tbsp flour
1 and 3/4 cup half and half
2 egg yolks
1 tsp salt
1/2 tsp red pepper
1/4 tsp black pepper
1 lb crab (doesn't have to be fancy jumbo lump, but not imitation either)
1/2 lb grated cheese (pick your favorite kind, I think Barbara used cheddar)
Saute onions and celery in butter until wilted. Blend flour in well. Pour in half and half gradually on low heat, stirring constantly. Add egg yolks, salt, red and black pepper. Cook for five minutes.
Rinse crabmeat and press out excess water. Put crabmeat in to a lightly greased casserole. Pour sauce over the crabmeat and add half the cheese and blend well. Sprinkle the rest of the cheese on top of the mixture. Bake at 375 for 15 min. or until light brown.
(Apparently you can add green onions somewhere in there if that sounds good to you, but Barbara didn't do it that way for us.)
Happy crabbing!
Monday, December 1, 2008
Don't Touch the Tree!

So we picked out our tree today, a good sturdy NC-grown tree from the farmer's market. Nathan wore one of two (two!) designer coats (from Marshall's) that my mom picked out last summer on super-clearance. This is his Timberland coat, and while it's incredibly warm (albeit slightly too big) and incredibly well made, Nathan does have some trouble seeing around the hood. Which makes it hard for him to see every "big truck" that goes by. Which means when he wears it, there is a significant reduction in the amount of times I hear the phrase "big truck." In short, I love this coat.
It was supposed to be a relaxing day with just our little family, as recovery from our crazy weekend. But of course it's never quite as relaxing as we intend it to be. We made a huge mess in the den during the decorating process (Nathan scattering toys all over the house doesn't help). Boxes of Christmas stuff, tree twine, branches, ladders... well you can see. With two pups and a toddler in the middle of it. Although this is exactly the kind of chaos I can handle. It makes me happy, even. Especially with Christmas music in the background. Christmas music of the Chipmunk variety. (Just kidding dad, put down the noose.)Overall it was a very pleasant afternoon, made even easier by the fact that our outside icicle lights are burned out so we need to replace them...
which means Mark didn't have to hang them today after all (that makes him happy, he hates hanging those things as much as I love having them there). Somehow not hanging the lights was still exhausting for him, as you can see (Simon too).When all was said and done, we have a very nice-looking tree (although I lost the colored-lights argument again), and we've relived lots of memories by exploring through our ornaments, and we drank some really good apple cider (the farmer's market did us up right today) and actually relaxed, which was the goal.
And although the tree has been up for a very short period of time, I have already perfected what is apparently the oldest saying in the grand tradition of toddlers at Christmastime: Don't touch the tree! Think he'll have it down pat by the end of 31 days? Somehow I doubt it.
Seriously, don't touch the tree.

